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Hello wonderful world,

It is with some excitement and some fear as well that I write today’s post. You see, God has asked me to put this up for a while and I’ve been putting it off because I know that once I do, there’s no going back.

It’s been easy for me to put up posts here and forget that there are people who read this blog apart from my close friends and I have no problems being honest and open here because as far as my brain is concerned, people that read this blog are far removed from me. However, something happened last week that ended up being a wake up call of sorts. A colleague of mine in the office asked me how my boyfriend was and I was surprised that she knew I was in a relationship. I thought my friend had told her but it turns out that my colleague reads my blog. Now although part of me was happy about that, the other part of me was scared.

Let me let you all in on a little truth; sometimes my posts here minister to me as much as they minister to you. There are times when I don’t live up to the standards of the things I preach; I get mad at silly drivers that scratch my car and have been known to get out of the car and rant a time or two, I can be very impatient with people and with God, I don’t always spend as much time with my family as I should and I have things I’m struggling with that God is working on in my heart (and these aren’t the worst things I’ve done). It’s because of this that I have been hesitant to share any more about myself  than the lessons I have learned so far from God.

BUT that season has come to an end. No I’m not perfect but that does mean that I should not preach a standard that is perfect; the standard of Jesus. We are increasingly hesitant to stand for what we know is right because we know that if people look hard enough, they will know that we have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I know I have but I know that when I do I have to go back to my Father and ask for forgiveness and, by His grace, close the door to the sin. End of story.

There are many things about myself that I want to share here; I love clothes and fashion and looking good. And YES you can absolutely love Jesus and fashion. I know that sounds hard to believe but even the Proverbs 31 woman was a fahionista (Yes!! I said it). It worries me when I see ladies dressing in a manner that leaves very little to the imagination (it’s a pet peeve of mine actually, the boyfriend can attest to that) and I hope that by putting up photos of outfits I love and fashion ideas I have that ladies who come across this blog can know that you can be a spiritual fashionista. It also follows that I love make up as well and I will share things that have worked for me and things that haven’t. I love to read and I love to eat as well so I’ll probably share some of that on here too. Basically this blog will become a platform for me to share myself and the ways God colors my view of life.

This bit will be very hard but I will also share things that I struggle with and don’t be surprised if you see me put up a post asking y’all to pray for me. If there’s one thing I want people to take away from this blog from now on, it’s the fact that the writer is not some extraordinarily religious person who spends hours praying each day (I wish I did though, I’m work in progress). I’m just a girl like many of you . The only thing that sets me apart is the fact that my life is hid in God. And although I may fall twenty billion times, I have nowhere else to go but Jesus. What I’m trying to say here is that is if I can do it, then you absolutely can.

That’s it from me today people. I hope this ministers to someone. You don’t have to be perfect for God to use you, you just have to be available.

 

Peace and Love,

Grace’s daughter.

 

P.S..In the spirit of the post, I thought it made sense to put up a few photos just so you could put a picture to this mysterious person called “Grace’s daughter”….Enjoy!

photo 1

That’s me sans make-up…just got my hair cut. Was very scared just before but it turned out fine

That's me with make-up. My first attempt at contouring and highlighting. I didn't do too bad if I do say so myself

That’s me with make-up. My first attempt at contouring and highlighting. I didn’t do too bad if I do say so myself

At my friend's traditional wedding over Xmas.

At my friend’s traditional wedding over Xmas.

 

Catching Up

Hey wonderful world,

It’s with so much excitement that I write today’s post. I usually start with a hello and hope you guys are doing great (which I do hope is the case) but I feel the need to just go straight to the point today…which is basically me catching you guys up on what’s been going on in my life since the last time y’all heard from me. Btw, I do hope you guys are doing great and I wanna say a huge thank you to everyone that keeps coming back to see what I have to say. It’s honestly nothing short of a blessing and I’m grateful to be able to touch your lives in my own little way.

Now a lot of things are happening in my life right now and I will just catch you up on two of them. First of all, I am in my first relationship…eeeekkk!!! Yes, as you can tell, I’m quite excited about it. The young man in question is a wonderful fellow whom I met through a mutual friend. We got talking and about two months later, we became official. This is a completely new thing for me and there are many times when I feel like a fish out of water. I’ve discovered that although my mind had been renewed in God in many other areas of my life, it was not the case as far as relationships with the opposite sex were concerned.

From the age of 9 till about 24, my perception of non-familial, non-platonic relationships with guys was shaped by Hollywood and writers like Julie Garwood, Judith McNaught and Nora Roberts. See the problem with these kinds of books, I have found, is they fry your brain and they prevent you from having a wholesome and honest view of what those kinds of relationships should be like. They hone in one aspect of these relationships i.e. the passion and attraction and they magnify them until that’s all you can see. The end result for me was that I never gave anyone a chance unless I was completely attracted to him.

Now don’t get me wrong, attraction is important. I repeat, attraction is important. However, if you’re building a relationship based on attraction and how the person makes you feel than I am very sorry to say that you are headed down Damnation Street. I listened to a message by Myles Munroe a couple of weeks ago and he said that when you’re deciding whether to date or marry someone, make sure the person has character. Don’t base your decision on his “charisma” or what we on this side of the world call “swagger”. Hollywood and romance novels, for the most part, have taught us to look out for the tall handsome guy with the nice looking chest that knows just what to say and just what to do. They make us swoon and we are instantly attracted to them.

Oftentimes, the problem with those kinds of guys in real life is that the quality of their character is poor. By the time the haze of attraction has cleared just enough for us to see them as they really are, we are already in too deep emotionally. So much so that we’d rather manage the situation and be with the guy rather than call the bad situation what it is, get out of it and sit at God’s feet while we ask Him to get rid of the junk in our minds and hearts and allow Him to renew our minds and to inform what we find attractive. It may sound preposterous to many but trust me when I say it can be done….it happened to me.

It took me a while to get here (as well as many tears) but I’m glad to be here. I don’t want to give too much away too soon because things are still really new but I will say that there’s no feeling like that peace that comes from knowing that you’re in a relationship that God wants you to be in, with someone who is for you and is good for you, who you connect with spiritually, emotionally, mentally (comedically…lol) and intellectually. Someone who supports your dreams and who, at the end of the day, is (or rather in my case, is becoming) your best friend. I don’t know if we’ll get married or if we’ll break up but I do know that God is right in the middle of it and that’s more than enough for me.

While we’re on the topic of relationships, Grace’s Daughter has been getting quite a bit of exposure; more than I ever hoped for or even dreamed of. Starting this blog was just my being obedient to God and I never really thought past each post but it would seem that God has other ideas on His mind. I was recently approached by a young man called Tobi Atte. Now when I first got Tobi’s e-mail, I figured it was some sort of mistake. The e-mail was addressed specifically to Grace’s Daughter but I tend to forget that people actually read this blog.

Tobi is a Life, Relationship, Faith and Motivational coach who is a contributor on BellaNaija.com as well as Love Lounge which airs on Ebony Live TV. His company, IJUSTMETME, is hosting one of its signature events called “The Convo” which is a very deep relationship event. The videos from his past events are below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQtuOnW_hko&list=PLOREye5df14dO33wSwvmHyovbPPXT3P1w&index=4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUDUXMwHt78&list=PLOREye5df14dyP3nJIab9Lv9YHuFmpKQ0

The following links are some pictures from past events:

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.373609106117561.1073741827.155244994620641&type=3

Now Tobi has held this event Philadelphia, Houston and New York and is bringing it to Nigeria for the first time. The topics discussed range from spirituality in dating to commitment issues and shared values. I have watched some of his videos myself and have been blown away by the wisdom in the content. A lot of what he’s said has also helped me in my relationship.

It is for that reason that Grace’s Daughter has decided to be one of the proud sponsors of the event. The date has been scheduled for June 28th, 2014 and more details will be communicated shortly. Over the next few weeks, I will be giving away free tickets to the event and will share more information with you. As you can imagine, I am sooooo excited and I really hope that lots of you can attend.

Well forgive me for the extra long post today guys….I’m sure you’ll agree with me that it’s completely understandable. I hope to share more with y’all soon and I really look forward to any questions or comments you may have.

Love Always,

Grace’s Daughter.

New Year’s Musings

Happy new year people!!! I pray that this year will be an amazing one for all of you, that the Lord will show up for you in awesome ways and that He will cause all things to work together for your good in your life. I pray that this year will be one where you will be totally submitted to God and that you will allow Him to draw you to Himself and reveal Himself to you. Because the truth is that you cannot really know who you are or what you have been called to do and be until you have known God.

I also want to say a huge thank you to all of you that have been consistent readers of the blog. Thanks for your encouragement and for leaving your comments and questions. Please keep them coming…they motivate me to keep writing, keep thinking (anyone who knows me knows that I can think for the world) and keep listening out for what God lays on my heart to share with you.

There’s a deep sense of urgency and excitement as I write this post tonight. It seems that God is speaking so many things to my heart today and confirming a lot of the things He had spoken to my heart a long time ago. I can’t go into detail on a lot of them because there simply isn’t the time and I’m trying my best to make sure my posts stay as brief as possible. So I’ll summarize the different things that are going through my mind right now and I have a strong feeling that I will talk about some of them in more depth in subsequent posts.

  1. God is literally screaming out His words of DIRECTION and is willing to guide us on the right path to go in this year if we will take the time to spend time with Him and listen to what He is saying. God speaks to us in different ways depending on who we are and the nature of our relationship with Him. I know for a fact that, now more than ever before, God is looking to take us by the hand and guide us by giving us specific directions on what to do and where to go. We just need to listen out for what He’s saying and we need to be OBEDIENT!!!
  2. Obedience is key this year. People please, when God gives you and instruction, just obey Him. It might seem difficult at first or even ludicrous but the first thing to do is just say yes and then ask Him for the grace to do what He has asked.
  3. That’s another thing that God has made available in truckloads this year: GRACE. The bible says in Hebrews 4:16 that we should approach God’s throne of grace with boldness and confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. I know for a fact that God is telling me not to try and rely on my own strength or abilities, especially this year, but to lean on Him and trust Him to take care of things for me. I have so much on my plate especially this year and I can come up with many excuses to abandon God’s work and focus on other aspects of my life like work and exams (CFA level 1, the Lord is my strength). But if I rely on God to equip me, I can find that I will get the results I need without having to work as hard at it. Now please note that I am not saying I will not work at all because God’s word says that the man that doesn’t work should not eat. What I am saying is that instead of relying on myself completely and thinking my success is solely dependent on my efforts, I can do my part and allow God to work out the rest. That way, He takes all the glory.
  4. God has called us to be agents of CHANGE. I have seriously slacked in this area and have allowed myself to either become comfortable with things that rightfully bothered me about my country or I have blocked myself off from those things because I did not like the feelings of anger and annoyance they elicited from me whenever I allowed myself to consider them. However, the truth is that those things that elicit righteous anger in us are the very things we have been called by God to do something about. Each and every one of us is the change we are looking for. Start in your house, with your family and friends, in your office with your colleagues and ask God for the wisdom and strategy to stir up the change you seek.
  5. Finally, we need to be people of STRATEGY this year. That means that we need to sit down, figure out what God wants us to do, who He wants us to be and ask Him the most important question which is HOW he wants us to achieve those things. We need to start walking in PURPOSE people. The time to guess or go with the flow is fast running out and we need to take the steps to identify our calling in life. There’s a level of confidence and surety that people who understand their purpose walk with. They are not distracted by what goes on around them; instead there is an otherworldly level of focus that confounds and can even elicit negative emotions of anger and jealousy from people who don’t understand it. But when this is tempered with love and wisdom, it becomes a wonderful too that draws others to Jesus.

 

That’s it from me today people. I know today’s post is a bit longer than usual but I do hope that it speaks to someone. I look forward to hearing from you and please don’t forget that God loves you and longs to have a relationship with you.

Love always,

Grace’s daughter