The Story of Us (Part 3)

Hello wonderful people,

I hope this meets you all well. Once again from me to you all, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. As usual, the holidays were way too short but I’m grateful for the time away to chill with my people who matter the most to me. I went to a couple of weddings as well as my cousin’s 21st birthday party (which was such a swell time) and I’m looking forward to New Year’s day as it will be a good day for rest.

Now I know a lot of you have been waiting for today’s post and I do apologize for its tardiness but it’s for a good reason…..the man in question has lovingly agreed to put down some of his own thoughts on our story so you guys get to see things from his perspective. Here it goes:

This girl is a wahala girl. See as I enter one chance. Anyways, I’ve been following the blog same as all of you and my head has doubled in size as time has gone by (she always makes me look good). She has stayed true to what actually happened – it’s been like reliving the past. As I have been roped into this, I have no choice but to dive right in.

So we started seeing each other but we weren’t “official” just yet (I still don’t get the concept). And then one day she said she didn’t like me but that she would like us to remain friends. At that point, my ego wall went up and I told her that was impossible. I wasn’t going to be in the friend zone, I’m sorry. Sue me. I knew exactly what I wanted from her and I was not willing to settle for anything less. I decided I was going to move on with my life but it was very difficult at first. I didn’t sleep the night she told me. Alas, life had to go on. Just when I thought I was getting to a place where I could start to heal, I get a call from her. My pride almost stopped me calling back but I’m so glad I did. She told me why she said it and more importantly, why she had a change of heart and we got back together even though we weren’t dating (see what I mean by not getting the concept?)

And so we started to see each other again. It wasn’t always smooth but we have always managed to come back to each other. Relationships are hard work sometimes but you need to know why you’re in it to work through the tough times. We went into a relationship looking for a long term commitment that could lead to marriage so we always knew what we were fighting for. Along the way, she has managed to teach me and that is what I appreciate most about her. She has taught me what it means to love someone, to totally put your pride aside because it’s not just about you. She is strong because she allows herself to be vulnerable – if that’s not strength, I don’t know what is. 

We started talking about marriage a couple of months ago and decided that we wanted to get married so I had to get a ring. I got the ring in November but she was out of the country for a while after that so I couldn’t propose until she got back. On the 2nd of December, I finally popped the question.  And that’s how we got to where we are now. 

It’s been a fantastic time and God has been really great. This year has been fantastic for me and she is a big part of why that’s so. Thank you for reading. It’s been real.

That’s it people; you heard it from the other horse’s mouth. Like he said, all the glory belongs to God because we would not have gotten to where we are today if it wasn’t for Him leading and guiding us. We still have a bit of a journey ahead before we become man and wife. But as it’s been with our story so far, we will continue to look to God to show us the way to go.

And so from Grace’s Daughter (and her Prince), Merry Christmas and we wish you a wonderful 2015 ahead.

10 thoughts on “The Story of Us (Part 3)

  1. Ifeyinwa says:

    Thank you for sharing your story! I loved reading it and definitely had a fair share of “awww” moments. If your fiance is open to it, I’d be interested on a series on dating with purpose from both of your perspectives. Congratulations again! And I wish you two a lifetime of happiness together x

  2. Faith B says:

    Ada Ada!! I must say it was indeed refreshing hearing from the other “horse’s mouth”. Thank God finally a piece where Ada’s head gets to swell ;P and yes indeed you do exude strength. Congratulations again and again on this amazing journey you both have begun.

  3. Frances Okoro says:

    Thank you for being so open and inspiring others that godly relationships with purpose is possible.

    I pray for a life wrapped in God’s love for you both..where your own strength can’t take you, may God’s wings be the wind beneath you both.
    Happy new year!

    • aokwodu says:

      Thanks ever so much Frances, I really appreciate it. At the end of the day, all the glory goes back to God because He’s the One that has made all this possible. Happy new year luv, I pray you have an amazing 2015.

  4. Nala says:

    Congrats dear!! Like Frances said, thanks for showing us that a godly relationship with purpose is possible. All the best to both of you.

  5. Tee Hills says:

    Adaobi, I can not thank you enough for sharing your love story with us. It’s so real, like your hubby said, not all these things we see in the movies that deceive us. I would email you soon.

    I wish you all the very best in your wedding preparations.

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