The Story of Us (Part 3)

Hello wonderful people,

I hope this meets you all well. Once again from me to you all, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. As usual, the holidays were way too short but I’m grateful for the time away to chill with my people who matter the most to me. I went to a couple of weddings as well as my cousin’s 21st birthday party (which was such a swell time) and I’m looking forward to New Year’s day as it will be a good day for rest.

Now I know a lot of you have been waiting for today’s post and I do apologize for its tardiness but it’s for a good reason…..the man in question has lovingly agreed to put down some of his own thoughts on our story so you guys get to see things from his perspective. Here it goes:

This girl is a wahala girl. See as I enter one chance. Anyways, I’ve been following the blog same as all of you and my head has doubled in size as time has gone by (she always makes me look good). She has stayed true to what actually happened – it’s been like reliving the past. As I have been roped into this, I have no choice but to dive right in.

So we started seeing each other but we weren’t “official” just yet (I still don’t get the concept). And then one day she said she didn’t like me but that she would like us to remain friends. At that point, my ego wall went up and I told her that was impossible. I wasn’t going to be in the friend zone, I’m sorry. Sue me. I knew exactly what I wanted from her and I was not willing to settle for anything less. I decided I was going to move on with my life but it was very difficult at first. I didn’t sleep the night she told me. Alas, life had to go on. Just when I thought I was getting to a place where I could start to heal, I get a call from her. My pride almost stopped me calling back but I’m so glad I did. She told me why she said it and more importantly, why she had a change of heart and we got back together even though we weren’t dating (see what I mean by not getting the concept?)

And so we started to see each other again. It wasn’t always smooth but we have always managed to come back to each other. Relationships are hard work sometimes but you need to know why you’re in it to work through the tough times. We went into a relationship looking for a long term commitment that could lead to marriage so we always knew what we were fighting for. Along the way, she has managed to teach me and that is what I appreciate most about her. She has taught me what it means to love someone, to totally put your pride aside because it’s not just about you. She is strong because she allows herself to be vulnerable – if that’s not strength, I don’t know what is. 

We started talking about marriage a couple of months ago and decided that we wanted to get married so I had to get a ring. I got the ring in November but she was out of the country for a while after that so I couldn’t propose until she got back. On the 2nd of December, I finally popped the question.  And that’s how we got to where we are now. 

It’s been a fantastic time and God has been really great. This year has been fantastic for me and she is a big part of why that’s so. Thank you for reading. It’s been real.

That’s it people; you heard it from the other horse’s mouth. Like he said, all the glory belongs to God because we would not have gotten to where we are today if it wasn’t for Him leading and guiding us. We still have a bit of a journey ahead before we become man and wife. But as it’s been with our story so far, we will continue to look to God to show us the way to go.

And so from Grace’s Daughter (and her Prince), Merry Christmas and we wish you a wonderful 2015 ahead.

The Story of Us (Part 2)

This post was meant to go up on Sunday but I was having internet issues at home so I’ll just put up what I wrote then (never mind the two day lapse)

Hey guys,

I don’t know about you all but it’s been such a stressful week for me; I was hoping for a bit of downtime especially where work is concerned but it seems like there’s more to do than normal. I guess we haven’t yet gotten the holiday memo. I’m hoping things will be much better this Christmas week.

Speaking of which, Christmas is here again and with it comes the call to count our blessings and remember the things we have to be grateful for. Look guys, I won’t overlook the fact that it’s been a tough year, especially for those of us living in Nigeria. But the truth is that life itself is a reason to be grateful. So instead of focusing on what you don’t have and haven’t accomplished, focus on the fact that you are alive. As long as there is life, there is hope.

Alright guys, no need to keep you in suspense any longer. The story of us continues….Moyo and I had our first date at Ice Cream Factory in Lekki. If you had asked me at the time, I definitely would not have called it a date. Truthfully, I did not think much of it. As far as I was concerned, I was hanging out with a guy and I had no idea how things were going to play out. If anything, he started out with a serious disadvantage because he is Yoruba and I only wanted to date Igbo guys (bringing that up with my parents was not the easiest thing to do but that’s a story for another day). Our first time out was interesting because I had never talked so much about myself before. I was used to having to look for space to insert myself in my conversations with guys on dates but this was very different.

We hung out for two hours and we were just talking. It was very much a new experience for me and it definitely made him stand out. He was walking me back to my car when he asked me out again and I agreed. One thing I will say for sure ladies is that when a guy really wants you, he will make it clear; he will NOT play with your emotions and he will NOT keep you guessing. He will understand your value and what you are worth and he will do everything in his power to make you his. It IS that simple, please believe me.

We were talking for about a month when he told me he wanted us to be in a relationship. I told him that I needed time to think about it and pray about it and I did (need time that is). To be honest, I was struggling with letting go of the ideas I had of the kind of person I wanted to end up with. And I was not going to enter into a relationship with a guy if I didn’t think I could marry him.

It was not your typical romance story; boy meets girl, girl is ecstatic about meeting boy after going through a frog or two, boy and girl fall in love and live happily ever after. Nah, that’s not what happened here. God used Moyo to work on me, to make me a better person and help me realize that His plans for me might not always be what I would choose for myself and that can be very difficult to accept. But when you let go and allow God have His way, the path He carves out for you is infinitely more beautiful than you could ever have imagined for yourself. Amazing things happen when you let God write your love story.

Stay posted for the third (and final) part of the story coming your way next week.

Yours,

Grace’s Daughter.

The Story of Us (Part 1)

Hello wonderful people,

Hope y’all are doing well. I’ve been away for a while, I know and for that I apologize. I’m sure by now that you all are tired of hearing my apologies for my lengthy absences. Please bear with me guys…..I really am trying to keep up. I know I can try harder though and I so I ask you to please keep me in your prayers.

It’s been a very interesting couple of weeks; I was away for a couple of days in the U.S for thanksgiving. It was lovely to be able to get away and spend some quality time with my family. Coming back to Nigeria was a bit difficult because work got crazy. I’m hoping this next week will be lighter as we head into the Holidays.

Alright guys, so I have some news. A number of you who read this blog are friends of mine (some of you I have actually met through this blog) and so you know that I got engaged almost two weeks ago.

I’m sorry guys; I know I should have told you all sooner but I needed some time to wrap my brain around the whole thing. For those of you that have read this blog from the start, you know that my journey as far as dating is concerned has been a very long and interesting one. But one thing I can tell you for sure is that God is really awesome and cares so much about every single area of our lives especially where dating is concerned. If you hand over that aspect of your life to Him, He will take it and make it something absolutely beautiful.

I met Moyo about a year ago (on Boxing Day) at a hang out with a friend and I didn’t think much of him at the time. In fact, I’m quite sure he annoyed me because he kept asking me questions and challenging my opinions. It turns out that he was just very curious about me and how my mind worked. I didn’t know it at the time but a mutual friend of ours was trying to set us up. Fast-forward about two weeks later and I get a phone call from a number I don’t know and I call back. Turns out to be this same Moyo guy.

Ordinarily I would not have given him the time of day because he was not my type but God had allowed me to “have” my type just before I met Moyo and things didn’t work out with him. Looking back now I thank God for it because I would not have given Moyo and I a chance if I hadn’t gone through that experience. So the version of Grace’s Daughter that Moyo met was one that was a little heart-bruised but as a result, completely open to whatever it was God had in store for her as far as dating was concerned………

That’s it for today guys…..I’m gonna do a bit of a series on the story of Moyo and I as it’s a bit too long for one post. I will put another post up on Sunday. In the meantime, have a lovely week y’all and remember the reason for the season.

Love always,

Grace’s Daughter.