The Danger of Comparisons

Hey guys,

Yes I know its been ages (head bowed down in shame). I have no excuses people, only a heartfelt apology. I can’t promise it won’t happen again (I’m learning to give my word only when I’m sure I can keep it). What I can tell you for sure is that as long as the Lord continues to give me a word, I will continue to share. I hope you all are doing great and that the Lord remains #1 where your life is concerned.

Before I go into what’s on my heart today, I have to say that the Convo was amazing. I wrote a post on it like two weeks ago that I was hoping to share with you but it’s been sitting in my flash drive cos the internet at home is….well let’s not get into that. I’ll put it up tonight when I get home (please hold me to it).

My life has taken a very interesting turn over the past couple of weeks. I’m now back in Nigeria and settled (and very happy to be home). I’ve also started a new role at work which is very interesting and is nothing short of a very special learning opportunity. I feel very fortunate and I’m doing my very best to focus on the work and glean as much as I possibly can so that I can be ready for the next level when that new opportunity comes. I read something today in Galatians that spoke to me in this regard:

” Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else” – Galatians 6:4

You see I’m very structured in my thinking and the unfortunate truth about life is that there is no such thing as a perfect one-size-fits-all structure. You have to figure out who you are and find something that works for you. I’ve had to learn this lesson over and over again because I compare myself to other people a lot. Please note that I didn’t say “used to compare” because this is something I struggle with to this very day. The problem with comparing yourself to other people is that it goes hand-in-hand with seeking human approval and it’s a perfectly terrible combination. My job is very important to me an so you can imagine how tempted I would be to compare myself to my peers at work. But like the passage above says, all I need to do is focus on my work and do it to the best of my ability. It’s all about taking one day at a time.

And it’s not just at work; even in the body of Christ. There are times when I compare my “devotion” to God with that of others which is extremely dangerous. What happens is that you get so focused on outward appearances that the state of your heart no longer matters to you anymore. I kid you not, there are times when the worship team is playing and I’m not really connecting. Then I look at my friend sitting a couple of seats away and her hands are lifted high and there’s such an intense level of concentration on her face. I automatically judge myself  and the thoughts that run through my head sound something like this “Come, are you sure you really love God? Have you been reading your bible enough and/or praying enough? I don’t think so because if you have, you would have connected in worship like your friend sitting over there”. Trust me, I know it’s silly but it’s what I go through sometimes. So I’m learning to take a step back and question my thoughts and motivations. Am I doing this in church (another good example is serving in church) because it’s something someone said I should do or am I doing it with a sincere heart and the right motivations?

When I started to write this morning, I wasn’t quite sure what I was going to share; that usually means that God wants to use this message to speak to someone’s specific situation. I don’t know who you are or what it is you’re going through but you need to stop using the systems, structures and standards of this world to grade yourself. You are from above and so your standards are heavenly. Don’t compare yourself to other people because the truth is that if you cannot be truly content with your own life, you will never be content with another’s. There will always be someone else who life is “better” than yours. Prayerfully seek out what your purpose on earth is and make sure to use the resources God has made available to you to fulfill them.

Have a blessed day people.

Peace and Love,

Grace’s Daughter