Hello wonderful people,
I trust you are all doing well. I apologize for my prolonged absence; as usual there’s so much going on in my life right now but as a friend of mine reminded me over the weekend, I still have to make time for this because it’s important and it’s part of my calling. My life right now is really full; I have two weddings over the next three weeks and all the wedding events that go with weddings like bridal showers and rehearsal dinners. I also happen to be on the train for both weddings and I’m the chief bridesmaid for one so I really have my work cut out for me. Unfortunately my commitment to the choir has suffered which sucks……I was reminded how much I love it yesterday and I was called up to sing impromptu at a service. So I’ve been slacking on the things that matter but that’s all changing.
Now onto what’s on my heart today, I had a rather tough weekend. If y’all remember, in my last post I talked about taking the plunge and opening myself up to dating. Well there was a guy that I liked and seemed to like me and things seemed to be going on well but I began to have doubts and when I raised them, he went cold turkey. Now this really hurt me because I was not expecting it at all. I had been careful to find out the nature of his character from people that knew him and different people had the same good things to say about him. I also really opened myself up in a way that I don’t think I have before where a guy is concerned so it was really hard for me to reconcile myself to what happened. But you know what, I don’t regret anything. In fact in a weird way, I think it brought me to a better place with God especially because I had to go to Him for comfort when I was down. It reminds me of a place in the bible where it says (and I paraphrase) “I will seduce you into the wilderness and there I will commune with you”.
Another weird thing is that I have no ill will whatsoever towards the guy. I think he’s a great person and I really do wish him the best. I think that’s a miracle because the person I was two years ago would have plotted bloody murder for him. It’s a testament to the work that God has done in my life.
And God knows when to send people to you to encourage you. I was at my office Christmas party and I saw a friend of mine that I hadn’t seen in months and he said things to me that I needed to hear. I knew that I had been slacking generally with regards to my calling, the things God has placed on my heart to do and my relationship with God in general. My friend lovingly but firmly reproached me and encouraged me to get back on track because I was heading down a road that wasn’t pretty and would be difficult to recover from if I didn’t get my act right. I also have the best girlfriends in the world who will call me out when I’m not doing the right thing, dry my tears and be there for me when I need them to be.
So what am I saying today people? Basically life can get you down but you need to bounce back and get back up. There will be good days and crappy days but you need to get past them and look to God to see what it is He wants you to learn. There’s a lesson in everything if we will open our hearts and our eyes. Finally, make sure you have the right type of support system around you that will help you stand when you don’t even feel like getting up. Frim, Som-Som, Abs, Somurf and Kiks I love you guys. And I happen to have the best mother in the world.
That’s it from me today people. I’ll be back soon. Have a blessed week. Oh and stock up on moisturizers if you’re in Nigeria. It would seem that harmattan is upon us.
All my love,