So this is something I’ve wanted to do for a looooooong time; actually something God has been pushing me to do for a while but I kept putting it off. No more!!!! I’m finally here and I really can’t wait to share with you. That’s really what this is all about. I’ll give a brief intro; I’m a (soon to be) 24-year-old young lady living in Lagos, Nigeria. One of the greatest blessings in my life are the people God has placed around me; I have wonderful brothers and lovely parents. I’m definitely a family girl and they only come second to God. I have the absolute bestest girlfriends that a young lady could ever ask for including Abs, the Kikster, Gbems, Chizzy, Nicky, Cynth, Frim and my mentor Eloxie. I worship at This Present House in Lekki Phase 1 and I can honestly say that I would not be who I am today if not for my TPH family. I am also a proud member of the Tribe of Benjamin and the Lagos Community Gospel Choir (the BESTEST choir in the world; quote me). I recently finished my Masters degree and I just got a new job (that deserves a separate post of its own so I’ll talk about it soon). My life so far has not been easy (to be honest, it hasn’t been crazy hard either but we all have our problems), you’ll find out as we go along but I’m a daughter of grace; my life story so far is one that is a testament to God’s grace. That’s where the blog’s name comes from.
That’s enough about me. Today, I want to talk about dealing with people’s opinions about personal decisions especially when you’re not sure what yours is. I had some girlfriends over at mine yesterday and we were talking about this. I’m sure that many of you would agree with me that it’s not easy growing up in today’s world where everyone has an opinion on how you should live your life from your mother (whose heart is in the right place) to the woman who sells you ankara in Balogun market (who probably doesn’t even know your name). My girlfriends and I were trying to figure out how to handle people’s opinions when you’re not sure what yours is especially when it’s about your life. I’ll give an example; when I was trying to figure out what degree to study in undergrad, I did not know what I wanted to do so I basically let me parents choose for me. Now, at that age, it was probably the right thing to do (probably because I’m not completely sure it wouldn’t have been better for me to take a gap year) but now when I’m old enough and wise enough (by His grace) to make decisions for myself, I have to figure out how to make decisions I’m comfortable with even when they clash with my parents’ opinions and especially when my decision is to wait and try to make up my mind. An aspect of spirituality that isn’t often discussed is how to handle a situation where what God wants you to do is different from what your parents want you to do but that’s another post for another day.
Anyways, my girlfriends and I came to the conclusion that the most important thing to have in these situations is wisdom. You need wisdom to be able to take on parental opinions, consider them and respectfully put away their opinion and go with what God is telling you to do and what you know is right. As for people who don’t really know you and already have a life mapped out for you, don’t take it personal. The issue is with them and not you and you most likely need to pray for them.
Alright guys, that’s it for now and I hope this resonates with someone. Please feel free to leave your comments and any questions you have (which I definitely will get back to). Thanks for taking the time to visit and have a blessed day